If a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it. ~Edgar Watson Howe
Put this in practice every day of your life. People, yes even friends...close friends....will run and hide from you when things aren't going well in your life. I don't think it's because they necessarily want to, but either a) they just simply don't know what to do or b) their fear that this could possibly happen to their own life takes over and that just hits to close for comfort and stops them from doing anything. You really don't want to leave your friend "out there alone" do you? So come on, what's STOPPING YOU?! You will never know until you try the rewards you will reap when you reach out that hand to really help someone you love.